What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness

Relationships as the Source of Happiness Waldinger’s central thesis is that social connection is the most accurate predictor of happiness and longevity. Similarly, the Ten of Cups is the card of "familial fulfillment" and "harmony," representing the "grand finale" of emotional work. It acts as a counter-narrative to material ambition, reminding us that "it is through the governance of our emotions [and relationships] that we will find happiness". The Rejection of Materialism The talk highlights that while younger people often believe wealth and fame are the goals, these do not lead to a "good life." The Ten of Cups explicitly distinguishes itself from material gain; it is "not necessarily an indication of wealth... but a strong indication of genuine joy and love". While the Ten of Pentacles represents material wealth, the Ten of Cups represents "abundance" in the form of "support," "intimacy," and "alignment" with the people we love. Healing and Health Waldinger notes that good relationships protect our brains and bodies. The Ten of Cups is associated with "solace" and "healing". In the "Stages of Change" or psychological frameworks applied to Tarot, the suit of Cups teaches that attending to our emotional connections with skill and willingness can unlock our "life-bearing" potential. Interdependence and Community The study emphasizes that loneliness is toxic and community is vital. The Ten of Cups depicts a state where one is "surrounded by people who have our back" and where we allow the "nourishment that can be delivered only by true friendship". It reflects the "perfection of human love and friendship" and signifies a life where "all is well" because of the company one keeps.